http://www.goaskmom.com/MomsToDo/
this has some good reading

Independence

So this morning as I was driving down the freeway, after taking Shirley to her post-op appointment, I was thinking what I would say to my kids when they were starting to drive and this is what I came up with.

I would tell them it is ok to be afraid but don't let the fear take control of your life. I let it and it took over 11 years to get my license. (For those of you who know me fear has controlled a lot of me.) Having these kids has helped me a lot. It has forced me and made me want to do more things. I wish I had kids sooner! I guess it was just Gods way of teaching me to be patient and lean on him.